My niece has been living with us for about 3.5 months now and some days I feel it is getting better and then there are days that I think "can it get any worse." Dale and I are trying our best but it is hard to be a parent when you never were before. It is very hard to be a parent to a seventeen year old girl who had 17 years of the wrong information. How can you change a girl who is all ready so mixed up, I believe in my heart that she know right from wrong, my question is why is she always choosing to the wrong. She usually gets upset at me and yells at me but for Dale she talks to him with a normal tone of voice. I just feel like she disrespects me and she is not happy with where she is in life. The biggest thing I keep telling her is these are the choices and you will live with the consequences of your choices but why does she keep choosing the wrong from the right. I understand that she is looking for attention, but dale and I give her a lot of attention and we always tell her we care and that she means a lot to us. I realize that being a teenager is confusing and frustrating at times and things they do makes no sense to them and that they have no idea why they are making the choices that they choose. But, my question is why are they making choices that are not very approving and why are they always testing adults. I have read a couple of books on teenage problem/ personalities and some books make sense and then I have a yeah ha moment, but others just don't make any sense at all. How are we supposed to help her when resource aren't very embracing and up willing. Why is life as a teenager different than life as either a child or an adult we are all in the same world. I truly believe it is a turbulent time, with different obstacles that they have to face, and often it seems as if there are more obstacles for them to face. They have many challenges in life that us adults do not face on a day to day basis such as peer pressure, alcohol, sex, drugs, and finding there personal identity. Why cant a teenager be accepted for who they are? Why are kids so opinionated and mean? Why are kids so critical? I don't know do you?? How can one kid have so many dreams and hope about there future, but then in the same token they blow it all in a day. How can choices and obstacles force them to choose the wrong direction to take from the right. How can one kid have so much hatred and hurt built up inside. How can one kid take a wrong turn in the road and not learn from there mistakes. How can a teenagers life be so messed up that they can not find right pathway out of a messy situation. How can alcohol in a teenagers life be so important? Why is saying, "NO" so hard. How can they not see that it will only put them in danger- accidents, or jail time. How can one teenager feel the need to let there life pass them by without even wondering what they want in the future. How can a teenager change there minds so many times in an hour. How can a teenager be mad about something and be cheerful the next, I understand the whole hormonal thing (I'm a nurse) but still it's like changing your dirty socks. How can a teenager feel that life is so short and there is no adventure, for when I was a teenager I lived for the adventure and for everything life dealt me. How can one kid not believe in god, for you need to believe in something, why not be something powerful and meaningful like god. Why is one child leading in the right direction while another is totally in the wrong? Why am I asking so many questions,may be because I am venting and for I have no one to vent to, this blogging helps me feel a little bit better about the decisions that I have made with my teenage niece. For I hope they will help her now and in her future. For I only wish she is more excepting of them..We love her so much and only want the best for her!
I found this poem and thought it was a nice poem for what I am going through with family member
Life
by Jenna Spears
Sometimes I can see myself running.
But what am I running from?
I'm running from life.
It's impossible to get away.
Sometimes I wish I could just close my eyes,
And then things would be different.
I just want to be somebody.
I don't know if I can, but I'll try.
I've messed up in my life more then once.
But at least I'm still alive.
But do I want to be?
Yes . . . I do.
People mess up all the time.
It's no reason to just run away.
If you do, your problems will wait for you.
You just gotta move on.
You have to except what you've done.
Just can't sit and feel sorry for yourself.
Life's not that bad.
It's what you make it out to be.
There will be good and bad times.
Sometimes more bad then good.
Either way it's life.
I would never want to change my life.
Even though I've messed up in the past.
I think it made me a stronger person.
So instead of running,
I'll stay and take life as it is!
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