Friday, June 12, 2009
Family Planning....
A couple weeks ago my husband seen an article in the church bulletin on family planning and he said to me, "Maybe we should start doing family planning that the church has to offer" My first thought was he wants a child; but, I am not sure if I am ready for children. I did fine raising my 17 year old niece who was in a lot of trouble when she first moved in our home but after a year she graduated and she is getting on with her life as a young adult and moved out of the house.. I am okay starting at 17 but at age 0, there is more responsibility involved. I am not sure if I have the patients to raise a baby, they are too delicate. There are times when I think it is time to start a family and then I go to the mall and see a baby and then I want one. But then reality sets in, would I be a good parent? Would I treat them like I was treated? To have millions of crazy thoughts about it does that make me a bad person? Does people think I am cruel for thinking such thoughts? I am just not sure about the family thing.
Okay, so getting back on subject of family planning planner the church has to offer. It involves you paying close attention to the intimate times you and your loved one spend together alone behind closed doors. So family planning is planning those special times a month where you can and can not be intimate if you do not want to have children. Makes sense right. Well if you have an irregular period it won't work. So I am having issues with this because I fall in that category. So what I do it and then end up knocked up, will I be ready, I would have to be because there is nothing can be done about it? These are questions I need to ask myself before I even think about doing such a crazy thing. Does my husband wants to start a family and I am holding him back or does he think I want to and he feels he is holding me back. Is it so bad that I do not want to share my husband with anyone, I want to hog him all to myself, yeah I know selfish. I guess we just need to sit down and talk about this situation together as two mature adults. Check for later postings
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The great debate of when to have children...how many? are we ready? will I even be good at it? what if? on and on. These are normal questions, and honestly I don't think that anyone is ever ready for it. My sister just had her first child and she is 33...and she didn't realize how challenging it would be. Paul didn't want children, and he doesn't regret having Van. No one is perfect at parenting...you will be better than your parents were, because that is what we do. =) I know that I will be better than my Mom, because I am aware of her mistakes. And I know I don't want to repeat the past. I am not saying that you should have them or shouldn't...that is completely up to you. It is a life changing experience that is for darn sure.
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